tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post19607213999669958..comments2013-04-06T14:56:50.035-07:00Comments on Mommy Wants A Drink: Ah, The Shame.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08299377054233651091noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-27420412691724549462010-05-06T22:39:17.105-07:002010-05-06T22:39:17.105-07:00I LOVE THE SAHM POSTS!! The are hilarious and ent...I LOVE THE SAHM POSTS!! The are hilarious and entertaining. Please don't wash your hair, keep blogging. Who needs hygiene anyway...you already have a husband (ha ha...my answer for everything since I don't).<br /><br />Seriously, I don't perceive anything here as a gripe - you love what you are doing, you are good at it, it's good for the kids - you just want to vent the same way we all do about the everyday frustrations we ALL experience. We're just the lucky audience who gets to laugh at all your sarcasm...but based on pics of the eldest kid's last bday I can say you are the BEST mom any kid could hope for...so I get you completely here and never ever doubted that you should reconsider anything.Alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403606143334288414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-80941678968287715202010-05-06T20:59:10.910-07:002010-05-06T20:59:10.910-07:00I'm a wee bit hormonal currently, so please be...I'm a wee bit hormonal currently, so please be warned that this will be bossy (it was either admit that up front or not comment at all, and I feel I've abandoned you as of late, so...). <br /><br />I completely disagree that you need to "put up or shut up". I'm almost alarmed that you would even say such a thing! Your venting and musings ARE your outlet to stay balanced and sane. Not acknowledging the sometimes Groundhog Day-esque nature of your job (which you're clearly GREAT at) would mean that you'd either shut down completely (and THAT would make you the miserable mom...the very fact that you have the surging emotions and strong reactions only shows how involved and present you really are) or weren't that bright. Since you are *so* bright (and perhaps competitive by nature?), it's appropriate and expected that you obsess about how things might be different or if you're a SAHM failure (please) compared with other SAHMs who might be doing things differently (seriously, what are they doing? Should I be doing it too?? Are they somehow giving their child an edge that mine doesn't have?? AAHHH!!!). <br /><br />It would be much easier if there were some sort of governing body that awarded rankings and achievement levels to SAHMs, because, let's be honest, we're not all doing the same things and I think it would help my stress level immensely if I *knew* that I was delivering an objectively superior performance. Alas, there is not. And so we obsess. And sometimes feel as though we're totally losing it. And sometimes think we're doing such a sub-par/half-assed job that we might as well let a "professional" do it and at least bring home some income while we're at it. But that's all complete crap; you are a spectacular mother and the very, very best thing for your girls, even on your worst day. I would totally apply to do a mommy internship with you if I could. <br /><br />As someone who's only met you for 30 seconds (but I have! Suck on THAT, online-only stalkers of Mommy!), I can confidently say that you would be miserable if you weren't a SAHM. You are in your element! You already have joy in your job; you just also have a wicked sense of humor...so keep the "negative" blogs coming - we're here to support you, laugh with you, and cheer you on!HKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-51554519178333304032010-05-06T15:20:11.568-07:002010-05-06T15:20:11.568-07:00So... I was tempted not to post again because I ce...So... I was tempted not to post again because I certainly did not intend to get under your skin. Just wanted to offer some food for thought based on all you've shared. You are a wonderful mom to your girls I'm certain, but it is also important for you to think about what you need to do to stay fulfilled... and sane. <br /><br />The logistical challenges you point out are real, but certainly surmountable (e.g., get a job based in the States that would allow you to work from home and do the pick-ups, extend the school day for one of your girls to limit the number of trips per day). The real issue here is figuring what is the right balance between being there for your girls and being there for yourself. <br /><br />Okay, don't want to stand on a soapbox offering anymore unsolicited advice. You are a smart, talented girl... I'm sure you can figure it out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-64933958052345562452010-05-06T13:38:12.687-07:002010-05-06T13:38:12.687-07:00Totally agree with anonymous #2. The one thing I ...Totally agree with anonymous #2. The one thing I found so hard about being a SAHM (even though it was only for a 20 week maternity leave) was the extinction of *me*. Rightly or wrongly, as much as I loved being a mom and loved spending every day with my little guy, I felt like I was defined by him. When my husband asked me about my day, I responded about the little boy's day. Anyhoo, the grass is always greener -- as the lawyer-working-too-many-hours mom, I love reading your blog, not only because you're hilarious, but because the blog is a dose of SAHM-reality, which so many women don't share.<br /><br />Thanks for two posts in a row. Woohoo!! xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-21877462324418622122010-05-06T11:20:29.186-07:002010-05-06T11:20:29.186-07:00I just want to let you know, as someone who has kn...I just want to let you know, as someone who has known and worked for many SAHM and working moms, that the things that get you going also get all the other moms going. Especially for the SAHM It is perfectly normal to crave adult conversation (other than that of your spouse/father/housekeeper) and also to feel like you want to scream sometimes. <br /><br />Some people find a part time job a good medium to just be 'you' for a few hour a day. The old 'you', the pre children 'you'. Yes you are now a mother but you are also 'you'. It doesn't have to be a job, you could volunteer somewhere.. and have your housekeeper, or as anonymom suggested PA, do the errands while you focus on who you are.<br /><br />hugs xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-22547392378402644892010-05-06T10:46:32.615-07:002010-05-06T10:46:32.615-07:00I had to comment to say a) I love you and b) I lov...I had to comment to say a) I love you and b) I love reading a post from you two days in a row.Christyoginihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17006594037514412895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1036867931157983605.post-70688856820973732062010-05-06T08:27:30.341-07:002010-05-06T08:27:30.341-07:00have you considered hiring a personal assistant? o...have you considered hiring a personal assistant? or could your housekeeper help with the errands/repairs/etc so you can have some time to wash your hair/trim your nails/see a doctor/get a massage (imagine?!?!)/get your head straight? <br />i have a friend (no kids) who doesn't work and has a cleaning woman and 2 assistants. this, as you can imagine, is infuriating and completely beyond my comprehension. but you're in a different position! she found her assistants on craigslist. you can hire someone to free you up for 3-4 hours just a few days a week. apparently there are many retired/unemployed women who don't have to work but would like to make a little money on the side. maybe something to consider! and if you rely on her when the kids are at school, you don't have to worry as much about screening for someone kid-friendly (you know what i mean). <br />thanks for the shout-out; happy it lifted your spirits as much as your posts lift mine! as a first-time mom, i can relate to (and love) my fellow sisters-in-motherhood in a truly open, loving, sincere way. your posts are a great outlet for you, thought-provoking and entertaining for your followers, and are in no way judged by those of us who haven't figured any of this out any better than you! anonymomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com